tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289798428949870303.post8479557324637031502..comments2023-04-13T03:07:47.881-06:00Comments on Spicy Sister: One YearDuffyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14610560692331066766noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289798428949870303.post-34517002757328622172010-01-23T20:59:12.473-07:002010-01-23T20:59:12.473-07:00Happy birthday, Zane! I'm so glad you're i...Happy birthday, Zane! I'm so glad you're in the world making so many people happy just by being yourself. <br /><br />And big hugs to you, spicy. The expectations and then the dashing of them are a rough part of this mama business. Some days just don't flow.annacyclopediahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10461037288546901657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289798428949870303.post-44119658331271145552010-01-23T14:07:11.936-07:002010-01-23T14:07:11.936-07:00Hello Duffy,
This is Julia, from birthing from wi...Hello Duffy,<br /><br />This is Julia, from birthing from within. I met a friend of yours (also your doula) at a mutual friends dinner party a few weeks ago, and she told me about your blog. I'm glad to see that things are basically good in your world. <br /><br />Happy Birthday to Zane! Willa turns one on the 31st, and I am both ecstatic and sad for her to officially lose the baby title. <br /><br />Your blog is great. How courageous to put all of these thoughts, fears, hopes, etc. out into the cosmos. It was nice (selfishly) to read about your struggles with sleep. We are in the same boat, and know the pain of exhaustion all to well. Sometimes all I can do is remind myself that I have never heard of a 16 year old who still wakes to nurse. It has to end sometime!<br /><br />May this next year be as magical is the last! <br /><br />Julia (julia.sell@gmail.com)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289798428949870303.post-1711737605502259292010-01-22T22:03:18.017-07:002010-01-22T22:03:18.017-07:00Happy Birthday to your beautiful baby boy and Happ...Happy Birthday to your beautiful baby boy and Happy Birthing Day to you, Momma! Life at the whim of a 1-year-old is never predictable, and such is often hard to swallow when we have it made up in our mind that it should be - 4.75 years after my first, I am still trying valiently to learn this lesson. I am glad the day ended with laughter and love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289798428949870303.post-27582200641668023842010-01-21T23:22:06.229-07:002010-01-21T23:22:06.229-07:00Happy birthday, Zane! And happy giving-birth-day, ...Happy birthday, Zane! And happy giving-birth-day, Spicy!<br /><br />SparkleEyes' first b-day was the best day of my life--it was amazing and all I wanted it to be. But you know what? That's not what really matters. I'll always treasure that day, but she won't remember it. What really matters to her is all the everyday stuff, and I suspect that's what matters to Zane--the snuggling in bed, the soothing through teething pain, the feedings, that look in your eyes that tells Zane, "I love you with every last ounce of me." What matters is that you laugh with him, care for him when he cries, enjoy him as he eats his veggies. And, oh, you obviously did that so well today! Today and so many other days. You are not a failure. You are a loving, attentive mother. <br /><br />These milestones are often so important for us as parents--having the perfect, special day, getting all the details right, especially if we weren't parented the way we needed to be. But, at least for me, so many of those things that I so desperately want to go right are much more about me than they are about SparkleEyes, and what she cares about so very much are all the everday mommy things I do that tell her over and over and over again how desperately happy I am that she is here, that she is safe, that she brings joy, that she is loved. And you obviously tell Zane that in every way every day. There is no greater gift you could give him!Muser Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03619098935024377476noreply@blogger.com